But, the current statistics indicate the predominant choice is care at home. He is very slowly dying; physically he is finished; however his mental capacity for life is great. I think people who are interpreting "not being 'there'" as objectifying or otherwise insinuating a lack of 'humanness' are severely misrepresenting what is being said.
More often than not, this is the "wish" of the person that has Alzheimer's. After years of loneliness his wife asked for permission to divorce and remarry…Both his wife and new husband cared for him to this day. Many people I know who condemned Terry Schiavo’s husband for “moving on”, calling it “adultery” but were very sympathic in the case I just described… The problem with the Terry Schiavo case is that he WAS still married to her! No, we're snuffing ourselves out at the beginning and the end of life, so eventually, humanity will cease to exist. Someone with later-stage Alzheimer's or severe dementia is not the same person as the one their spouse married.
It is believed that there may be as many as 5.1 million Americans who have this form of dementia.
People with Alzheimer's can live for many years with this disease and there are various levels of progression.
He was caring for his wife, who suffered from severe early onset dementia and was looking for a woman caring for a spouse with dementia. We are both good people who were faced with horrible situations and are trying to cope the best we can. I have no qualms about revealing my relationship with this wonderful man should the subject come up. They would be mortified if they knew their father had been seeing another woman for over two years before her death.