One thing that royally ticks me off is when people come on here giving advice and automatically tell the person to run away or the guy is a player. Are there a hundred other reasons why he has made an about face? We have been hanging out alot, maybe 3-4 times a week plus emailing and talking on the phone quite a lot. We both agreed to go slow at the beginning and I totally respect that.
From what I've read it sounds like you both rushed into a fullf ledged relationship. Are there already expectations on either of your ends that you call every day? If you aren't in a rush to get into a committed relationship then give him some space to re-charge the batteries. He might have just figured out that you two aren't compatable in his eyes. I have been dating this guy that I met from this site for about a month now. Well Dante, I must say its been him calling and messaging not me.
He says he needs space, and I respect that, I'm in no rush to jump into a commited relationship, but I do enjoy spending time together. I have been down this road before and am trying keep perspective in this situation, thats why I asked for a guys advice. I think i have learned not to take things personally anymore, just wondering if its worth my time. My point is that there are a hundred different things that may have caused his about face.
Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. Same sort of thing happened to me with a guy I met on POF. If you have to question ANYTHING while in the get to know you stage - that makes you wonder WTF - or when someone says 'I need space' - I say give them all the space they want!!! Thats a polite way to say good bye ,been fun,see yeah, aloha, go away .... LOLAnd yes I have heard that line a few times in my dating history but I know what it means and what to do !
I have been dating this guy that I met from this site for about a month now. If he needs space after only 4 weeks of dating, I'd take a long look at the reality of this. In the meantime, do what it is you did before you met him. Comes on all gung ho, and then backs of, then reappears, then needs his space, and so on, and so on. LOLAnd any relationship less then a couple months and that line comes up no need to worry or wonder about them .
Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. I am a little confused because its been him initiating our meetings, him that texts and calls, and now we are moving too fast.... Live your life, enjoy yourself, and don't think too much or too hard about it. Don't come off desparate by putting up with anyones BS!!
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... I also still think you should call him in a couple of days to say 'what's up? If it seems like he is uncomfortable or uninterested in talking with you, then you have your answer and move on. If someone wants to form a relationship with you - they make every effort to do so and there are no lingering questions as to where you are going with them. Well when someone says that line to you weither your male or female that means they don't want to date you any more !
You've been spending a crap load of time with the guy. you say you aren't in a rush to jump into a relationship well guess what? By gawd don't start pestering him asking him what's wrong and did I do something wrong or is there someone else???? Don't assume anything bad either, like he's a player or an a$$.