The relationship is not what it was dreamed to be and one or both partners may be increasingly attracted to other people of the opposite sex. This is a time when the relationship is very vulnerable to unfaithfulness.
Your clear-headed friends will say, "No, do NOT check his Instagram." Or "Go to his place??!! " But you rattle off every imaginable excuse to support your brand of crazy and do your shit anyway. If it was your decision to end the relationship, you might begin to feel decision remorse, "Maybe it's ok that we hardly saw each other." Or "Did I really need to be attracted to him? You begin to carry a heavy sadness around to the point that the very act of being "normal" is exhausting.
So you drive by his house, circling the block as you sob. And of course, you also have access to Facebook, Snapchat and every form of online self-torture. At some point in your temporary insanity you start questioning yourself. So all day you fill the sadness dam with unshed tears and as soon as you get home, you face plant onto your bed and unleash.
So you stand up tall and forge on, back to your wonderful life. Restart: Freak on It may take a while to get to stage 5.
You might decide to focus on your work, hobbies or sculpting your breakup body. You begin to welcome attention and have lingering naughty thoughts.
You have probably heard couples say, "We knew the moment we saw each other across the room that this was THE ONE and we have been happily married for 45 years." Although we all wish we could experience love this way, the reality is that for most of us, relationships go through certain stages.